Lover vs. Friend

Have you ever been in a situation where in your friends don't like your Lover? I may not have been, but I have been in a situation where in I am the Friend who don't like my Friend's Lover. And I did experience many odd situations that sometimes I think I should not be accompanying my Friend anymore.

There are certain reasons why I don't like him for my friend. Simply because I love my friend and I value her as one of my Family. In short, I don't want her to get hurt. She may not see how special she is as a person and doesn't see he's not worth it for him to have her.

But how does it feel to be in the situation where in you are in between in a fight of your Friend and Lover? Of course, it would be very disappointing. Your friends are indeed very dear to your heart, but, your Lover is still very special to you also. Which one would you choose?

I have been in the Friend's situation, actually twice. And I can say that they have chosen their Lover rather than their Friends. I have enough reasons or I can say WE have enough reasons why we don't like their Lovers.But I guess Love is indeed Love. Not even Friends can make it stop. Cause when you are in love, you are blinded by your deep emotions and imaginations. Anyone who wants you to see the reality seems to be your enemies, even if you knew they loved you.

Based from my experiences, I think I should rather listen to my friends.They can see the real thing. They can see the real person if he/she is really true to you. For one simple reason, they are not in love with your Lover, and they cannot be blinded by their emotions nor imaginations. They can really see the whole real situation.

The Most Wonderful Time of the Year

Yes, Christmas is fast approaching. In fact, most of the establishments,houses, and etc. here in Philippines are full with Christmas Decorations.Some of them started to decorate when the month ends with “ber”, yes,the month of September.

Christmas celebrations here in Philippines usually have the longest celebration. Maybe because most of the citizens here are Catholic. And these Catholics have these so much faith in their Religion. We even do have what we called Nine Mornings. A mass done in dawn for nine days.

This event for some, is the most important thing to be held every year.This is the time when families gathered from all provinces to celebrate together Christmas. There were also some Filipinos working abroad or what we called OFW's comes home to Philippines just to celebrate Christmas with their loved ones. A time where in some people forgets and forgives the people that have hurt them in past. Maybe because of the Joyous Spirit that is everywhere that makes them want to forgive those people and start allover again.

Christmas is also a time of Giving. People who have something, tries to give to those people who don't have anything. Those fortunate people gives to those who were less fortunate. The Christmas Spirit seems to have a magic. A magic which makes people good and vanishes their Greediness.

But this Christmas event is usually the most Happiest event for the children. Some may quote, Christmas is for the Children. And I may agree with that. I can still remember how excited I was when the month of December is coming. Counting my gifts from my different Aunts and Uncles,and also from my Ninongs (Godfather) and Ninangs (Godmother). I even remembered the time I wish everyday was Christmas.

Christmas is really a big celebration. But we must not forget the essence of celebrating it. Why do we have to celebrate? How do we celebrate. For sure we have different answers, but most of them have only one meaning. And for me is to celebrate the Birth of our Savior, Jesus Christ. To give happiness to everyone. Advance Merry Christmas to everyone.

Thoughts could be Things

Have you ever thought of things you think you can never have? Or imagine something big you thought you could never achieve? Those THOUGHTS though could be real.

Any things could never be happened without our thoughts. Things would never come to be THINGS without imagining it or just having a THOUGHT of it.

We can be call creative of our own. Those thoughts that keep on bugging on our minds can be real, some may take time before becoming into Things, and some can come easily because we thought we can have those without running doubts in our mind.

But come to think of it, all things, regardless of how big or small it is, it comes from our thoughts. Though sometimes we think that those THOUGHTS we have are just made by our imaginations and could never be real, then we are definitely wrong. Those THOUGHTS usually comes up because we think they can be use for ourselves and for other people.

Never ignore nor neglect those THOUGHTS that we have. For those can be real things. Never think that those are just part of our imaginations, cause those thoughts can never come in mind if those were just useless.

Self Confidence

How much do you like yourself? How do you act on everything? Do you get easily conscious? Do you pity yourself when others don't like you? Do you hate other people when they discriminate you? Do you lose hope easily when things go wrong? Can you make decisions of your own? And how much do you love yourself? By just answering these questions, you can easily determined if you have this what we called “Self Confidence”.

A person who ‘LIKE’ themselves tend to have more confidence and obviously have a higher sense of self esteem. They also tend to be more successful. So how do you like yourself - especially when it is so easy to find fault?

One of the first things to do is get in the right frame of mind. Adopt a more positive outlook on life. Look at the things you DO have, not what you don’t have. Have gratitude. Never look down yourself for we do have our own BEST. Never compare yourself to others, because we are unique in every way. Do things with positive energy to increase the possibility of a successful result.

Even though some things might not be successful as what we always wanted, but still never get discouraged. That's not the end of all the challenges in life. Move on, and be strong. Never lose hope and continue on doing things. And accept all your faults. Remember, the most effective way to improve oneself is to admit his/her mistake. But, never regret or pity yourself, just LEARN from it.

Self Confidence is very important. One cannot do his/her things successful without this. She/he cannot decide easily. Having a big respect to your own abilities enables you to do MORE what you think you can only do. Men and Women who have Self Confidence are more successful than those who don't. Remember, we are the only one who can make our destiny to be more successful, and Self Confidence will truly help us.

Not that Fair

Just this evening, I have just read an article about how life can be different to all people, especially from Rich people to Poor ones. Some people may be very fortunate in financial aspects, some were born to be rich and some because of their hardships in life. And some were less fortunate to have just NOTHING.

The ex-ruler of United Arab Emirates seem to have anything. He has this Mansion house, luxurious cars, and many expensive properties. His mansion is almost made of gold. He has this one car that was made of pure silver.This man seems to be one of the few billionaires of the world. Even the people in United Arab Emirates (UAE )seems to be lucky to be just being a residents in UAE.

But take a look at the other side. Those were called the less fortunate.The opposite of the people of UEA is some of the people in South Africa.Those people don't even have just an ordinary shelter to call it their own.They don't have anything, not even water which for some, is very abundant to them. Their situation maybe called doom. They die very young, because they don't have anything to keep them alive, which is food and water.

I'm thankful that the situation in my life is like this. In fact I am very much fortunate. I am not rich but I cannot also call myself poor. I just have something. I can eat and drink water, and can do more. I have a family and I do have a job to feed me and buy things. I am indeed lucky. For those persons who think their lives are miserables because they don't have much,try to think the people of South Africa, you may then realize how lucky you are.

Why You Must First Love Yourself

Everyone has heard that you have to love yourself before someone else can love you. The reason for this is simple - our ideal partner is a reflection of us.

We can't love any person without loving ourselves first. If we did find partner, then it is not our ideal partner. Loving our self first is important before entering any kind of relationship, it may be just a simple friendship, companionship or a complicated romantic relationship. We must build our own personality.

Loving our self means knowing who we truly are. We must know what we are to know what exactly we want. Oftentimes in a romantic relationship, those partners that who have so much in common leads to be more successful than those who don't. Our beliefs has a big affects on us, the food we eat, the music we listen to, from the books we read, from the concerts we go to,from the movies that we watch. Because of those, we tend to meet many people of the same beliefs and sometimes leads to liked them.

If a person has accepted who really she/he was, then she/he certainly knows what she/he wants. For example, a person who loves him/her self, would have an ideal partner who is a replica of his/her own self. The things they have in common would certainly give them less boring times. Oftentimes,some of us are mistaken in choosing our ideal partners. We thought that we like those persons who are very different from us, different from our beliefs. They have those qualities that we don't have and will try to fill those empty holes in us. Then you are definitely wrong. We, our self, are the only one who can fill those empty holes inside us.

Those persons who hadn't loved their self, ended up in a wrong relationship. From time to time, they change their minds, including their ideal partner. Sometimes, we tend to like another person that is different from us, but it takes a lot of effort in energy for it to work cause it snot meant to be. But, those couples that have so much in common tend to be more at ease cause it comes up naturally, without exerting any effort.

If you have loved yourself, then you'll know what you want. If you have liked someone whose very different from you, eventually you will be that kind of person who you have really liked. There is no need to exert an effort for you to change, it comes out naturally. Once you have liked a person, everything he/she loves would definitely be your interest.

Accept yourself, and you will like the potential partners you can get.Improve yourself, and you will get the partner you want.

The Twelveth Angel

This story was told by a friend of mine. He said he was touched & moved by this story, he even did cried. Even though he is not fun of reading books,but this has catch his attention, and it even gave him a mark for him to remember always.
As I was listening as he was telling this story, I was amused by the way his actions shows. He seems very sincere in saying that even though he is a man, something in that story made him cry. And even if I was just listening to him, I almost cried by the story.

The story goes on like this. There was this businessman who seems to have everything a man could want. A loving and dedicated wife, two beautiful children. A dream house anyone would certainly want & a successful business. What could he ask more.
But with just one tragic incident, he lost his family. It was a car accident & there was no one to blame. He felt like he lost his life by that certain tragedy. He don't want to live and wished he was there in the car accident for him to be with his family.

One day he went to one of his closest friend for him to have some company.His friend was a coach of a children baseball team. His coach friend told him to take over his job because he have something to do for the next couple of months. He then agreed for him to forget his problems & to keep him busy, he loves playing baseball anyway so he give it a shot.

The team was composed of different kinds of children. Some of them were rich & some are poor. But there was this one child who caught his attention. This child was very weak, clumsy, poor and his clothes are like rags. But he let him join the team since they were lacking one, he was twelfth player. Everyday, the boy named John was the most eager to learn &practice baseball. But he was weak, he couldn't even run without stumbling.The businessman turned coach was amazed by John. The determination he have& the eagerness to win.

The coach was happy to see John as they go practice. One day the coach asked John where he lives, John answered the coach's question. John live sin the next village. After hearing his answer, the coach was shocked knowing that the next village was very far from the place where they practice. The coach was moved by this, he gave John a bicycle, gloves and a bat. John was very much happy about the presents he had just received, he told his coach his greatest dream, to play baseball in the fields while his mom watching him.

The coach did what he had always hoped for. The coach invited his mom to watch their game and he let John play baseball. John then told him that it was the very happiest day of his life he certainly would never regret.A few days has passed after that game, the coach hadn't seen John. A week has passed and still there was no John playing in the fields. The coach went to John's house to ask why he hadn't showed up for one week. The coach almost cried to see John. He was lying in his bed as if waiting for his death. John's mom told him everything. John was dying because of leukemia.What made the coach cry was knowing John knew all along that he was sick but still manage to live & play. The coach cried as if he was the father of John. The coach hadn't been able to talk to John because a few minutes after he arrived, John passed away. The gloves and the bat was in John's side when he was buried. It was his last request because it mean a lot to him.

After John's death, the coach started to live his brand new life. He started moving on from the tragedies he went through including John's death. He promised to live his life & to help other people. Make sense right? Just learn from it. You'll never know, someday you'll be needing twelveth angel.

You Don't Know ME

Can you tell if there is one person that really knows you very well? Forme, I don't think so. I think I am the only person who knew myself morebetter than anyone else. Not even my parents nor my closest friends cantell who really I am.

Other people can't read your mind nor feel your heart. Maybe they can sensewhat you are thinking or what do you feel by means of your actions, but itdoesn't mean they knew everything.

I think its a gift that everyone should be thankful for. There are thingsthat are better to be kept inside of us, especially our emotions. Sometimesother people may misunderstood us or misinterpret our actions, but don'tmind them. They don't know you, and they don't have the right to tell youwho you are.

Sometimes we too ask ourselves who we are. But at the end of the line, youcan answer that question. It may be different from your answers before butits still the same.

Others may say that they knew me very well but there are parts of me thatremains mysterious to them. And its better to leave it that way.

Friends Matters

Having a friend is something special. Out of all the millions of people in this world, you get to have a contact with them, and I think its very special. Imagine life without FRIENDS. No one to talk to about your problems, triumphs, & etc. Of course you have your family, but FRIENDS and FAMILY are different. There are things that you can't share with your family but no matter what, your family is always there for you. But how about friends.

I have a lot of friends and I can't even count how many they are. But there are only few friends that I always get along with. Sometimes, we change our closest friends to another one not because of we argue or because of fighting. Sometimes distance is the main reason of it. And it may be because of work or schools. And also for some reason nobody can understand.

I do value my friends a lot. I give what I can give to make them happy,that's the kind of friend I am. In every decision I make, I also consider my friend's advice. For me just like my family , my friend's point of views are also important.

When my family is away, friends are there to support me. People who have real friends behind them are lucky, they have found a second family.Friends indeed matters.

Disappointments

This year seems to be very different from what I had expected a year ago. A lot of things have changed, including the people around me. Last year, different people was behind my back, & most of the time, we were together always. We have imagined what will be in stored for us this year. But now, I think I'll be visualizing the new year with a different company.

I didn't imagine that someday we'll go on our separate ways as easy as like this. I have loved them and I did enjoy every moment that we have shared. Those were the days that I consider myself lucky to have them. But it ended like this, and it's kinda disappointing.

I'm not saying that I am disappointed with them, but I'm disappointed on the way things have gone. Things have gone wrong if I based it on our plans. I guess its really wrong to plan something in the future because in the end, it could hurt you.

Maybe that's what CONSTANT CHANGE do. And we have no one to blame, even our selves. We have just got to move on, and maybe realize on things that we must in order for us to learned something. Something that we could used in the near future.

Lets just face the fact that we can't control everything. And always remind ourselves to just move on in every disappointments that we have encountered. And keep this in mind that moments won't last but we'll always remember.

Backbiters

Have you known anyone to be backbiters? Well I do have, and I've got two of them. Backbiters are those people who talks ill against other people against their back. For me Backbiters are very disgusting and very pitiful persons.

Backbiters are those persons that don't have enough confident to their self. They are likely to be very insecure to their victims.

Its like they are wearing a mask. When they see their victim, they smile and talk to them as if there are no evil things running in their minds. But when their victim is away, that's the time when they talk ill against them to other people.

I have known someone who are backbiters, and sad to say that I am one of their victims. I pity them a lot. Because as what I have seen in them, they have no friends. As if they are the only living things in this world. Who would you think would like to be their friends anyway? I know for sure that I don't want to be one. I don't want even to get near them. They're just like decease, from which I don't want to get infected.

Backbiting is not good at all whether if its true or not. The proper way to inform a person if he/she id doing something wrong it to confront him/her and not by telling other people how bad he/she has done.

If you have been backbite, don't let your anger burst out. If you wanna clear out those mess that they have done, then confront them. If you think its a waste of time, then don't mind them. Anyways, you know yourself more better than anyone else. And those people who are your real friends, won't easily believed in it. In sum up to this, Backbiting doesn't do good. And those backbiters won't be happy at all. Pity for those Backbiters.

Second Chance

I've always thought that Second Chances for a romantic relationship are for only foolish people. Why give another chance and let them blow it all again. I have never believed in second chances at all. For me, its useless to give people another chance, if they have done it before, then they will do it again. But that was before. Now I think I'm realizing something new.People do mistakes which sometimes can never be forgiven, especially in LOVE. I used to think that making a mistake especially in a romantic relationships are done because of lack of love. I never thought that there are temptations everywhere. That no matter how much you loved one another,there is still a big possibility that one partner can be tempted.

If one has done a mistake, it doesn't mean that its lack of love.Sometimes, no matter how much that pain that has caused you, you must also know how to listen. We must also ask ourselves if we have done something wrong for them to get tempted. We must not always think and focus about the pain that has caused you, but all the things that happened, including the happy times.

Making mistake is part of life. One cannot taste the HAPPINESS without tasting BITTERNESS first. If you cannot accept one's apology, then TIME can. Time heals everything, including heartaches. But, I'm only favor of SECOND CHANCES, but not and never in THIRD, FOURTH & etc. chances. Keep this in mind, “Shame on you if you fool me once, shame on me if you fool me twice.” Mistake must be learned after it has been done, not after being always done.