Why You Must First Love Yourself

Everyone has heard that you have to love yourself before someone else can love you. The reason for this is simple - our ideal partner is a reflection of us.

We can't love any person without loving ourselves first. If we did find partner, then it is not our ideal partner. Loving our self first is important before entering any kind of relationship, it may be just a simple friendship, companionship or a complicated romantic relationship. We must build our own personality.

Loving our self means knowing who we truly are. We must know what we are to know what exactly we want. Oftentimes in a romantic relationship, those partners that who have so much in common leads to be more successful than those who don't. Our beliefs has a big affects on us, the food we eat, the music we listen to, from the books we read, from the concerts we go to,from the movies that we watch. Because of those, we tend to meet many people of the same beliefs and sometimes leads to liked them.

If a person has accepted who really she/he was, then she/he certainly knows what she/he wants. For example, a person who loves him/her self, would have an ideal partner who is a replica of his/her own self. The things they have in common would certainly give them less boring times. Oftentimes,some of us are mistaken in choosing our ideal partners. We thought that we like those persons who are very different from us, different from our beliefs. They have those qualities that we don't have and will try to fill those empty holes in us. Then you are definitely wrong. We, our self, are the only one who can fill those empty holes inside us.

Those persons who hadn't loved their self, ended up in a wrong relationship. From time to time, they change their minds, including their ideal partner. Sometimes, we tend to like another person that is different from us, but it takes a lot of effort in energy for it to work cause it snot meant to be. But, those couples that have so much in common tend to be more at ease cause it comes up naturally, without exerting any effort.

If you have loved yourself, then you'll know what you want. If you have liked someone whose very different from you, eventually you will be that kind of person who you have really liked. There is no need to exert an effort for you to change, it comes out naturally. Once you have liked a person, everything he/she loves would definitely be your interest.

Accept yourself, and you will like the potential partners you can get.Improve yourself, and you will get the partner you want.